Paying someone a genuine compliment is a surprisingly demanding task. First, you must have the emotional capacity to acknowledge good qualities in said person. Second, you must frame it in a way that sounds well-meaning, not facetious or patronizing. Third, you must have the conviction (and self confidence) to look someone in the eye and tell them that you acknowledge their good qualities – without totally creeping them out.
I’m not talking about topical compliments, like “Hey, I like your scarf,” or even “Hey, you’re beautiful.” I’m talking about hard-hitting remarks, like “You have a calmness about you that inspires others.” Boshia is one of those rare human beings that pulls this off on a regular basis with remarkable elegance. We took a walk with her one Saturday morning in her neighborhood to talk about her ongoing projects and to generally bask in her lovely presence. Enjoy.